I love this woman
I love this woman
You want me to walk into a minefield? OK. Let’s try to keep this short.
There are numerous angles to what’s unfolded over the last few days, and I’m not going to address all of them. Please keep that in mind here.
This has turned into TMZ. For just about all of this, it’s not our business.
There’s no excuse for the extreme harassment and abuse in the last few days. No one deserves to have nude pictures of themselves distributed all over the Internet without their consent. No one deserves to have their address blasted on social networks as a veiled threat. No one.
There is no excuse. None, nada.
Some people see a conspiracy. Others see common human decency.
What we have is an ugly corner of the gaming community exploiting an opportunity to tear into a situation with the flimsiest of justifications. The idea that such abuse is warranted because of concerns over the “ethics of games journalism” cannot be taken seriously by people who utter “whore,” “cunt,” “faggot,” and other words in the same sentence. A quick perusal of “zoe quinn” on Twitter will find you plenty of these people.
A response to that line of criticism might be “yeah, but…”
There is a universe where a blog was written specifically to raise ethical concerns about personal relationships between the games press, and not a character assassination meant to tear a person’s life apart.
We do not live in that world. Do not try to pretend that’s what this about.
Disclosure is important. Kotaku editor Stephen Totilo addressed this specifically on Twitter, given his reporter and publication are in question:
I’m on vacation overseas this week, but a matter has come up I need to address. This will take a few Tweets… (1)— Stephen Totilo (@stephentotilo)August 19, 2014
At root there has been a question about disclosure and one of Kotaku’s reporters, Nathan Grayson. (2)— Stephen Totilo (@stephentotilo)August 19, 2014
My standard has long been this: reporters who are in any way close to people they might report on should recuse themselves …(3)— Stephen Totilo (@stephentotilo)August 19, 2014
…from reporting about those with whom their close. If they must report about them, disclosure is mandatory. Readers deserve that. (4)— Stephen Totilo (@stephentotilo)August 19, 2014
The root of the questions about Nathan involve whether he was in a relationship with a developer he quoted in a Kotaku article on 3/31 (5)— Stephen Totilo (@stephentotilo)August 19, 2014
Nathan and I have discussed this and he assures me that at the time of that article he has not begun a relationship with the developer (6)— Stephen Totilo (@stephentotilo)August 19, 2014
Nathan also has not written about the developer on Kotaku since. I see my reporter as having met standards readers would hope for (8)— Stephen Totilo (@stephentotilo)August 19, 2014
Nathan has my trust, and I believe he deserves yours as well. (9/end)— Stephen Totilo (@stephentotilo)August 19, 2014
Nathan Grayson never wrote a review of Depression Quest for Kotaku. He did write about the indie game jam that went to pieces, which happened to involve Zoe Quinn. Numerous publications also wrote about the same incident, and nothing in Grayson’s write up is particularly different from what you would find elsewhere. On Rock Paper Shotgun, Grayson mentioned Depression Quest in a writeup about 49 other video games that were recently greenlit on Steam. Another mention of Depression Quest was published on RPS written by Adam Smith. You can verify this through the Depression Quest tag.
Yes, disclosure is important. Yes, we should be aware if the press has engaged in a personal relationship with a developer. But nothing justifies what’s transpired since. People have hijacked this for madness.
Cliche but true: some just want to watch the world burn.
Given I’ve spent the last few days trying to ignore folks accusing me of cheating on my wife, you’ll excuse me if I’m over talking about this now.
This is the last I’ll say on this topic. No other questions will be answered.
national moment of silence 2014 (for victims of police brutality)
share the following:
Ferguson Police Department
Email (taken off the site)
222 S. Florissant Road
Ferguson, MO 63135
Additional signal boost.
50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.
It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.
While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.
Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it.
It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.
What’s it like to work alongside so many other women of color?
yaaaaas uzo, girl.
A Jewish woman and a Palestinian woman protesting together in 1973, 1992, and 2001.
I fell for her like Troy fell to the Greeks; quickly, and in the most embarrassing way imaginable.
Wait, quickly? Wasn’t it after ten years of staring at each other angrily and killing each other’s best friends?
… oh wait or is this because she was dressed like a horse
Trigger warning: child rape
Moira Greyland (MZB and Walter Breen’s daughter) has agreed to let me share her email.
This is really hard stuff to read, and I’ve just thrown up my lunch. I knew about none of this part of things until a few minutes ago.
It is a lot worse than that.
The first time she molested me, I was three. The last time, I was twelve, and able to walk away.